DON’T LET IT GET PERSONAL
First and foremost, never personalize criticism, even when you’re being personally attacked.
Don’t get bitter—whatever it is, let it go.
There’s a great lesson in that. Show your wisdom and decision-making competence by remaining calm, cool, and collected. Most critics are trying to get a rise out of you, which may make you want to fire back. Don’t. Self-defense is a natural instinct, but always weigh the costs. A few careless words may haunt you for years to come.
CRITICISM COMES WITH THE JOB
You will be criticized. So learn to live with it. When you’re in a leadership position, it’s just part of the job description, so understand it and don’t take unfair criticism to heart. Accept the fact that a lot of criticism is aimed at those in positions of authority—as it has always been and always will be. Top executives are easy targets for people who want to vent their frustration.
AVOID KNEE-JERK REACTIONS
Don’t get bitter—whatever it is, let it go. Never let someone else’s criticism define who you are or derail what you’re trying to accomplish. Your first reaction may be to respond in kind or trade barbs with whoever’s criticizing you. Resist the impulse. Before you start talking, take a few moments to think carefully and weigh all the factors and ramifications of your response. In fact, it’s always better to wait a while before deciding whether or how to respond. Put it aside overnight and answer the criticism in the light of the following day. The passion you feel now will dissipate overnight and you’ll be in a better position to respond objectively and dispassionately.
It’s always better to wait a while before deciding whether or how to respond.
FACE THE TRUTH
Since none of us are above reproach, it’s entirely possible that the criticism directed at you is—dare I say it?—justified. If it is, and you acknowledge it to yourself, you’re in a good position to correct your behavior or performance, whichever the case may be. Rising above the criticism and objectively analyzing its authenticity earns the respect of your employees.
You may not agree with the criticism, but remember this: The person criticizing you thinks you deserve it, and even if they’re wrong, you have the opportunity for a frank, and hopefully objective, discussion with them to correct their impression. Look at this as an opportunity to make an ally out of what could otherwise be an adversary.
Rising above the criticism and objectively analyzing its authenticity earns the respect of your employees.
And keep this in mind: If you get the same criticism from two or more people, you can bet there’s a problem you had best examine—and soon. Winners learn quickly how to get out of their own way.
HANG ON TO YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR
When reflecting on personal criticism it helps to have a sense of humor. It relieves the stress you’ll feel when somebody tells you you’re doing something wrong. And a good sense of humor is like a coat of armor; it helps shield you from unjust criticism, allowing you to laugh it off. It’s a lot better than letting false criticism eat away your stomach lining.
Look at this as an opportunity to make an ally out of what could otherwise be an adversary.
Finally, don’t forget what Aristotle said: “Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” To that, let me add my own two cents: It isn’t likely you can avoid criticism altogether in this world, so you have to learn how to live with it.
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